There are escorts, and there are partners. One gets paid in fiat, the other in your time. If you can’t make the time, you can’t afford a partner. The time is the cost of a committed, investable relationship. There is no shortcut where you don’t spend the time.
Remember that a job will never love you back, and all of them are more temporary and of less value than a partner who respects and appreciates you. If you have to pick between the job and partner, find a better job. It’s just a job, and a good partner is far more material in your life success.
This is the same advice my children will receive when they are old enough, if that is relevant from a value perspective, but they get a bit of the lesson early with the care and respect I treat their mother with day to day (so they see what a healthy relationship is to model their own relationships after). You’re not looking for a soulmate, you’re looking for a cell mate. Find someone you can gracefully and effectively suffer life together with. But make the time for them, it’s not optional. I was lucky to find my person, I wish you luck.
(n=1, married ~20 years, ymmv, very sex positive, no shade towards sex workers, the point is “understand the relationship and the transaction you are negotiating and participating in”)
There are escorts, and there are partners. One gets paid in fiat, the other in your time. If you can’t make the time, you can’t afford a partner. The time is the cost of a committed, investable relationship. There is no shortcut where you don’t spend the time.
Remember that a job will never love you back, and all of them are more temporary and of less value than a partner who respects and appreciates you. If you have to pick between the job and partner, find a better job. It’s just a job, and a good partner is far more material in your life success.
This is the same advice my children will receive when they are old enough, if that is relevant from a value perspective, but they get a bit of the lesson early with the care and respect I treat their mother with day to day (so they see what a healthy relationship is to model their own relationships after). You’re not looking for a soulmate, you’re looking for a cell mate. Find someone you can gracefully and effectively suffer life together with. But make the time for them, it’s not optional. I was lucky to find my person, I wish you luck.
https://youtube.com/shorts/D5XipFExGbM
(n=1, married ~20 years, ymmv, very sex positive, no shade towards sex workers, the point is “understand the relationship and the transaction you are negotiating and participating in”)